Assistance Outside the Home

In fulfilling a ministry of love to their own children, parents should enjoy the support and cooperation of the other members of the Church. The rights of parents must be recognized, protected, and maintained, not only to ensure solid formation of children and young people, but also to guarantee the right order of cooperation and collaboration between parents and those who can help them in their task. Likewise, in parishes and apostolates, clergy and religious should support and encourage parents in striving to form their own children. In turn, parents should remember that the family is not the only or exclusive formative community. Thus, they should cultivate a cordial and active relationship with other persons who can help them, while never forgetting their own inalienable rights (TMHS, 148).

The primary goal of Family Chastity Formation in Virtue & Purity of Heart is to educate parents in regard to their God-given rights, duties, and responsibilities in the mission of educating their own children in love according to Catholic teaching. A secondary goal is to assist parents in the discernment and use of outside assistance to supplement their own educational efforts, so they can determine if it is in accord with or violates Vatican guidelines, especially in the delicate area of human sexuality.

While parents have a God-given duty to carry out their mission of education in sexuality according to Church teaching, The Truth and Meaning of Human Sexuality, Guidelines for Education Within the Family acknowledges that "the decline of traditional models has left children deprived of consistent and positive guidance, while parents find themselves unprepared to provide adequate answers." Making the parents' mission even more difficult is that children are being systematically exposed to classroom programs that provide inappropriate information about sexuality by educators who want to usurp the parents' role because they are either (a) ignorant of Church teaching concerning the rights of parents and children, especially in matters pertaining to human sexuality, (b) misinformed about how to apply Church teaching in the classroom, (c) rejecting of Church teaching altogether, or (d) supportive of agendas that intentionally misrepresent or oppose Catholic morality. The parents' mission is further undermined by powerful worldwide movements and philosophies that actively support efforts to destroy traditional religious values in regard to chastity, marriage, and family life and are promoted by wealthy individuals, institutions, foundations, governments, and schools.

Respect for the privacy, intimacy, and sacredness of sexuality means chastity formation should be approached delicately by parents on an individual basis within the sanctuary of the family home. Violating the sacredness and integrity of God's design for sexuality, as classroom sexual education and inappropriately designed and delivered chastity formation programs do, has set off a chain reaction -- similar to splitting the nucleus of an atom -- within the personality of our children and within the sanctuary of the family home. Parents are the primary educators of their children and have the inalienable right and duty to educate them in conformity with their moral and religious convictions. However, in some cases, parents may legitimately desire or need outside assistance, and the Church provides definite guidelines for parents to follow in their relationship with educators outside the home.